No Fixing Required

As someone who is very passionate about creating the best life possible for myself, I often read or listen to content that is defined as 'self help' or 'self improvement'. One of the most important lessons I have learned from this is a complete paradox to this movement, and it is the idea that we do not need 'helping' or 'improvement'. The goal truly is to unlearn all of the untruth's that we've taken on over the years. Thus I now refer to this as 'self discovery', re-discovering the truth of who you really are.

The concept is that we all have our things. We may drink too much, gossip, eat terribly, judge others, gamble, overspend, etc. However, I'm here to announce that everyone, every single one of us has our things. Even the person that you view as the most 'perfect' has their inequities, but the idea is to not give our whole attention to them, just allowing them to be there. Yes, there are areas of our lives that might need adjusting if they are harming us, but in most cases, we can identify with the pure, whole, loving version of ourselves even while we still have our things.

The theme this week is inspired by a video by Alan Cohen, a spiritual author, coach, and speaker, who has been a mentor of mine for years. In the above video, he talks more about why we don't need to continue 'working' on ourselves, and how we can give ourselves permission to be just as we are, right now, with our so-called flaws included. I found this video to be very enlightening, and it allowed me to release the pressure and demands of 'fixing myself' until I was perfect, as A. What the hell is perfect? Can someone please tell me? Who is the judge to confirm? and B. If not now, then when? What criteria must be met until I can accept myself as I am?

Join me, and claim the idea that you can accept yourself just as you are, not in need of anything, and that while you want to grow and learn, you will no longer wait until a day in the future that will never come.